Honestly this is more of a little reminder for myself, I'm struggling more days than I am not but I also have learned how to handle myself...it just takes work and for someone who is unemployed some days it does just feel easier to curl back up in bed. But I have a tiny human who is relying on me, and I am relying on myself to get myself back up on my feet because there isn't anyone else to do that for me, welcome to adulthood right? I'm a little embarrassed at how much I've relied on others when it comes to life things but now I need to put on my big girl panties and push through.
one. Get out of bed
This one is seemingly the most straight forward but is still the hardest of the lot. Especially in winter when it's cold outside of the covers. I have to share my living space with a lot more people now so it is a lot easier to hide in my room and lie in bed while the Bean plays around me but I need to make a more concentrated effort to get out of bed in the morning and stay out until bedtime at night.
two. Eat well
Food has been super important to me, and feeding Bean good nutritious meals have been numero uno on my priority list, but when it comes to myself I've been slacking. I blame partially the Christmas season and the availability of chocolate and sweet but my low vegetable consumption has purely been due to my laziness and lack of desire to actually prepare and cook a meal when I could just eat toast and a cookie. I feel infinitely better when I am putting good food in my body, and keeping physically active
three. Stop overthinking
I am a relentless planner, I have to-do lists out the door, itineraries for each day and activity I plan but despite all of this I never get anything done, why? Because instead of doing anything I just think about it. I have this incessant need to try to go over every possible scenario mentally before I actually do something which is the easiest way to talk myself out everything. I cannot see the future, I cannot plan for everything and at a certain point I need to just dive in and go for whatever it is that I want to get done.
four. Stop feeling sorry for yourself
This is not where I imagined my life at this point, but when does anyone's life go exactly as planned? I've hit a lot of road blocks and gone down some twists and turns but I also have so much to be grateful for. I have a beautiful boy, amazingly supportive family, hilarious friends, a roof over my head and food in my belly. No matter how dire things may look for me, it's still not that bad. I need to be able to ask for help when I need it, but I also need figure things out myself and make my life work for me.
You are on the right path, I encounter many of the same things everyday. You are not alone. Love, Mom
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